SO SO SO many of my friends are pregnant, heavily pregnant, have just given birth or are reaching the end of their first year of being a parent. Gosh, I miss having a baby around the house. I recently visited a friend who gave birth 2 weeks ago to a little baby girl, and considering I have 2 daughters I have a soft spot for baby girls. Okay, and baby boys too, but I feel like I’ve forgotten what it’s like to have a helpless little person who’s is so reliant on you for everything.
As draining as that sounds, I miss it so much. I have a friend who tried for 10 years after her first child before she fell pregnant. I have another friend who has been trying for a few years with not baby (yet!). I have a few friends who have had miscarriages and a few friends who NEVER EVER want kids. My mum worries about the extra work and stress that comes with more kids and whether I can handle it, but I’m a big believer in things happening for a reason.
I was quite young both times I was pregnant so I feel the next time it happens (God willing) I will approach it very differently. I will probably nap more, eat better, exercise more, worry more and not buy so much stuff that I didn’t end up needing (like a lot of first time mothers do, me included. I really thought a wipes warmer would just make my baby feel that much better when changing nappies).
One thing that I love about pregnancies that occur after you’ve had your first child is all those people who come out of the wood work with words of advice, “Eat this!, “Don’t eat that!” “(insert some ridiculous advice that doesn’t even make any logical sense)” have nothing to say. Being pregnant with kids in tow comes with a status of “move out of the way and be quiet, I know what I’m doing”. I also appreciate how midwives treat you differently. A friend of mine was allowed to leave the hospital the same day she gave birth considering this was baby number 4.
When ever “it” does happen I’d love the document or announce “it” in any of these ways.