So this link popped up on my facebook newsfeed around the holiday season and even though that season is long gone, my youngest daughter is turning 5 soon and my husband and I are have been discussing how to celebrate it. A few qualities I hope to instil in my children are
a love of learning
There are others I’m sure. Oh goodness, am I setting them up for failure? *Sips coffee to get back on track* So I could go down the track of throwing her a big party with face painting, jumping castles and a paid kids entertainer, with balloons and mountains of food to go with mountains of presents. I hesitate because, like my father, I see room for a lesson to be learned in everything. To be honest my kids are quite blessed with a loving, close knit family, a great circle of family friends who are more like our extended family, too many clothes and even more toys. So i ask myself, what does she really need on her birthday?
I’ve been meaning to ask her what she wants to do for her birthday, because some kids don’t actually like the whole “big party with everyone focusing on me”. One evening while I was helping the kids clean their room my “soon to be 5 year old” daughter turns to me and says “Mummy, I don’t really play with some of these toys anymore. Can I put them in that pile of stuff that you keep saying you’re going to get rid of soon?” which makes me think
a) thanks for reminding me about my new years resolution to DECLUTTER
b) its time for a lesson on charity
So I sat her down and discussed the qualities marked above with an asterisk. Mind you after our discussion, she looked up at me and said “Can I go to the zoo for my birthday?”
I’m pretty sure her understanding of “necessity” was already quite clear considering she was willing to get rid of perfectly good toys that she just didn’t need anymore.
So my pile of donations gets bigger, the kids room becomes less cluttered and my hopes of raising admirable adults grows ever so slightly.
I have some weird new years resolutions, which I wont share with you, however one resolution which leans towards normalcy is to GET ORGANISED and DECLUTTER! I do this weird thing where I declutter my house and tell myself I won’t buy anything I don’t need and for 7 months of last year I didn’t buy a single thing, REALLY! Feel free to pat me on the back. My house (and my life) felt light and easy.Then BOOM within one month I some how purchased enough ‘stuff’ to feel like I was back as square one. So, this is the year!
Apartment therapy is a website that I frequent to get inspiration on anything from food, home decor, life organization and even how to not let electronic devices take over my life.
With 5 ideas to get you cleaning and Decluttering: more than a resolution I really don’t have an excuse… except the weather today is stunning!
I should probably read this article providing tips on sticking to your resolutions
*sigh* I’m probably shooting myself in the leg with this post but why can’t my house look like that???
The Glow provides beautiful pictures of mothers who are aesthetically inclined (designers, photographers, painters, etc) and their beautiful children in their beautiful homes and maybe a recipe or multitasking tip thrown in for practicality. So as I sit here amongst lots of mess, in my pajamas at approximately 1:30 in the afternoon (goodness, its time for lunch already!). From their About page…
The Glow is a glimpse into the world of inspiring and fashionable moms.
Here you’ll find their styling ideas, go-to gear, multitasking secrets, and enviable decor.
…and thats exactly what I did. I envied. Hard. I shared this link with a friend who in my eyes deserves to be featured on this website and her response was, “Yeah that’s great, if i was rich and had a million house keepers my house would look like that too, b****y hell!” (My 6 year old may be reading over my shoulder as I type, thank goodness for the asterisk). She then shared the link with another friend who “Lol’d and sighed” saying she didn’t have time for this!
So moral of the story, I (and many other mothers) need to stop being so hard on ourselves. I don’t have housekeepers, looking pretty at home with the kids is quite impractical and unimportant while you’re jumping on trampolines and playing ‘Australian Idol. Me and my grey sweatshirt and purple pajama pants are off to make lunch.
Call me crazy but having 2 kids is easier than 1. For one, they entertain each other so I don’t have to spend the entire day on my knees building block towers and dressing up as a princess. I think siblings come into our lives to teach us valuable lessons.
My daughters are 17 months apart and get mistaken for twins all the time. My daughters also know how to fight over a range of issues.
I want THAT dress!
That’s MY toy!
Go away, you are so ANNOYING!
That’s not how you play that game!
Why won’t you play with me?
Okay, I just got a mini headache thinking about it. But in between the squabbles are tender moments of love and care. When my eldest lost her first tooth she was distraught. She thought all her teeth were falling out and they would never grow back. My youngest gave her the sweetest hug and kiss on the cheek and said “that’s okay, you can borrow my teeth.”
Being two girls so close in age, sharing is always an issue. There are situations where they know sharing is the only option, and other times when the concept of sharing flies out the window. I’ve decided that sometimes its better to stay out of it and let them figure things out. Hopefully this will make for adults who are able to solve their own problems whilst also developing a balanced idea what I need and what other people need. This article gives a good summation on this broad topic whilst giving some wise words of advice, that I definitely needed to hear.
If only my daughters relationship always looked like this…
So even when it looks like that outside, it looks like this inside
Does anyone else use rainy days to have a cup of tea and contemplate? This is a MUST READ on five natural emotions and the possible repercussions of not allowing children to express these emotions. After reading this, I mother very differently.
I work. Very hard. Really, really hard sometimes. I work at home. I’m lucky enough to be able to stay home with my kids, even though they will both be in school by the end of the month. I have about the same number of friends who stay at home full time and those who work full time, so I’ve heard both sides. Most of them who work full time out of the home do so not by choice and feel guilty about it. Most of us who stay home sometimes feel isolated from the outside world and wonder what it would be like to commute to work and to talk to adults everyday. Not sure if this is a case of “the grass is greener..” because in the end we all have our childrens interests as a top priority in all our actions and choices.
I personally study full time from home whilst selling beauty products from home. Hopefully my kids see me as an example of the value and importance of hard work, how to make the best of your situation and that mothers (and women) can do anything.
*I’ve seen my youngest daughter, who turns 5 in less than a month, wearing the same backpack all day around the house and was just curious..
Me: Sweetie, can I just ask why you’ve been wearing that backpack all day?
Sweetie: Mummy… *in a matter-of-fact tone* I’m pretending to be a giant!
…you learn something new everyday. Backpacks = Giants. On another note, she starts kindy in 21 days, not that I’m counting, so I’m thinking some school bag shopping is in order. Apprehensive about your child starting school? There’s a big chance you’re more nervous than your growing child who is about to begin their educational journey. Just remember to take deep breaths and a camera to capture their big smiles and excited expressions on their big first day!